Why should the US attempt relationships with the Muslim countries?

I as read this, I was once again asking a question that no one has answered for me.
In an exclusive interview with NBC News' Brian Williams: [http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31071200]

"Obama told Williams on Tuesday that people in Islamic countries recognize that the “path of extremism” won’t better their lives, and being “anti-American” won’t solve their problems.
“And so what I hope will happen, as a consequence of this speech, is people will have a better sense of how America views its relationship to the broader world and to Islam,” he said.
“I hope that Americans will recognize that Islam is not a monolithic faith, that there are all sorts of debates taking place within Islam, about how to adjust to a modern world.”

Obama in an interview with BBC North America correspondent Justin Webb about the Middle East, states:http://www.bbc.co.uk/worldservice/news/2009/06/090602_obama_transcript.shtml

"..there are misapprehensions about the West, on the part of the Muslim world.
And, obviously, there are some big misapprehensions about the Muslim world when it comes to those of us in the West."

Al-Qaida released a 12-minute audio message titled "The Torturers of Egypt and the Agents of America Welcome Obama" posted on militant Web sites that have been used by al-Qaida in the past and carried the logo of As-Sahab, the terrorist organization's media wing. [ http://hosted.ap.org/dynamic/stories/M/ML_AL_QAIDA_OBAMA?SITE=CASDT&SECTION=INTERNATIONAL&TEMPLATE=DEFAULT&CTIME=2009-06-02-16-34-51 ]
But al-Qaida's deputy leader Ayman al-Zawahri, al-Qaida's No. 2, on Tuesday said the speech will not erase what the U.S. military is doing in Iraq and Afghanistan.

"His bloody messages were received and are still being received by Muslims, and they will not be concealed by public relations campaigns or by farcical visits or elegant words," said Ayman al-Zawahri.
Al-Zawahri said the Egyptian officials who will welcome Obama are U.S. "slaves" and have turned the country into an "international station of torture in America's war on Islam." He was likely referring to suspected Islamic militants who have been captured by the U.S. and sent to Egypt for interrogation, a process known as rendition.
Al-Zawahri urged Egyptians to reject Obama when he makes his
speech, calling him "that criminal who came seeking, with deception, to obtain what he failed to achieve in the field after the mujahideen ruined the project of the crusader America in Iraq, Afghanistan, and Somalia."
He said Obama's decision to come to Cairo showed the U.S. had not given up its alliances with dictatorial and corrupt Mideast governments.
"It is a clear message that America does not stand with reform and change and other lying American propaganda, but it stands with the continuation of the existing tyrannical, rotten regimes," said al-Zawahri."
Meanwhile, a group of Muslim clerics connected with Egypt's prestigious Al-Azhar University have announced the creation of a new satellite channel to propagate moderate Islam and challenge what it describes as extremist distortions of the religion.
Al-Azhar University, Sunni Islam's premier educational institution, is co-sponsoring
Obama’s Thursday address.
Sheik Khaled el-Guindy, a member of Egypt's Supreme Council of Islamic Affairs and a driving force behind the "Azhari" channel, said the idea is to use the knowledge and skills of Al-Azhar graduates to combat ignorant interpretations of the religion.
"Azhari will promote the idea that Islam is a religion of moderation free from extremism," he told The Associated Press on Tuesday. "Several satellite channels right now promote a strict interpretation of Islam and issue incorrect religious opinions that fill young people with extremist ideas."
Azhari is set to be launched in mid-August, at the start of the Muslim holy month of Ramada. It will present a mix of entertainment and educational programming, including children's cartoons, soap operas and call-in shows.
The channel will initially be broadcast in English and Arabic, with plans to expand it to Turkish and Hindi, and will be viewable from Europe to Southeast Asia.

My question is and has been ; why should we repeatedly attempt to create a dialog with, apologize to, or befriend the Muslim world?

We are continuously told Islam is a religion. Yet, we see whole countries in the Middle East and Southern Asia have it as their government and ruling law. After 9/11, the U.S. populace were told on a daily basis that we are not at war with Islam - it was al-Qaida, a fanatical Islamic group. The U.S government officials and the Mainstream Media were very careful in drawng the difference to the front of our minds on a daily basis. What I think Pres. Obama needs to remember is that most U.S. citizens had no trouble drawing the distinctions between Islam and fanatical Islamic al-Qaida. Most of us had known Muslims in our neighborhoods and didn't harbor ill feelings toward them as a result of 9/11.

Then we have our first introduction to the Taliban. It was the CNN documentary "Beneath the Veil" that gave us a view of Muslims that was the exact opposite of what we had been told. http://www.rawa.org/cnn-king.htm
We saw the government rule of fundamentalist groups of Muslims. We saw womyn openly beaten and whipped; and the most horrendous lawful execution of womyn in a former soccer stadium. Since that first documentary in October 2001, there have been reports of other atrocities, such as, of girls being allowed to burn to death in a school because they did not have proper head coverings. We have seen reports of other beatings, of executions, of having acid thrown in their faces , of being 'married' at the age of 8, of being sold to pay off debts, and many other acts all considered lawful under Islamic governments.

How are we, as Americans, suppose to overlook these heinous acts and establish a realtionship with those goevernments that allow this?